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David&Chris

I never wanted to get married! Ever! Even as a child and young adult I found the institution of marriage so “old school”, something so mundane I did not want any part of it. In fact I still did not want to get married on December 1st, 1994.

Yet! Seventeen years ago today I woke up, went for a 6 mile run, took a shower, put on a pair of white jeans and black hiking boots, went down to the Santa Clara Superior Court House and tied the knot!

My mom was stunned into silence when I called her after the fact, . Believe me when I say that this had only happened a couple of times that I remember, one of which was the time I blacked out from alcohol poisoning in High School. Her only daughter, heck, her only child, had gotten married without her even knowing! In jeans! She eventually got over it and both her and my dad welcomed David into their lives as if he was their own son (the son my mother had hoped for when she was pregnant with me!).

17 years have passed since that day I threw out all of my resolve to never be a wife. I never looked back! To say that my change of heart was the right decision is an understatement. Although I had known for quite some time that David was the man I would spend the rest of my life with, license or not, I could not ask for a better husband. It has certainly not been all champagne and chocolate covered strawberries over here but we both realized early on that compared to what we had been through before we finally made our relationship official, nothing could tear us apart. Absolutely nothing! In fact every challenge has only brought us closer. Of course it also helps that David has the patience of a saint, is more driven than any other person I know and as hard a worker. His undying optimism has helped us weather many a storms, and so has his amazing ability to always work through any challenge that might be thrown his way. From the first day we moved in together David has always put me and our relationship first, has supported my need for running freedom, and accepted my weird attitude towards food and eating dinner as late as possible. He also buys me soy tea lattes and caramel frappuccinos whenever I want one or the other. We have had some incredibly good times together and I cannot wait for the adventures our future may hold.

Looking back on that day 17 years ago I quickly realized that this was really the only way I was ever going to go through with a “wedding”. David was game to do whatever I wanted, big or small, and the way it turned out was truly my day, including the reception dinner at TGIF (hey, it was good back then!).

At least my jeans were white!

In honor of our 17 years together here are 17 reasons why I love him:

*for his undying optimism even in the toughest of times

*for his love for Nelson

*and understanding how much I grief for this dog

*for always replying “not as hot as my lovely as my wife” when asked if a female celebrity is pretty or hot

*for his ability to fix everything and anything

*for his uncanny ability to budget

*for the fact that he can finish my sentences and often has the same thoughts than me at the same time

*for his impeccable work ethic

*for always looking out for others

*for always coming to my races and supporting me and my running buddies even though he is not a runner

*for his sense of direction

*for always making me feel save

*for the way he makes all of our friends feel welcome

*for always looking for ways to improve our lifes

*for not being afraid of new adventures and change

*for making me love him so much I would happily leave everything behind to travel with him in a Winnebago

*for making me laugh

Happy Anniversary, G1! I am looking forward to making forever last a lifetime!

Today’s Running Tip: Commit to a training schedule!

By committing to a training schedule and telling your friends, family, and especially your running buddies about it you will easily reach your running and racing goals for the year ahead.

Heartache

A week ago today we had to say our last good bye to our Nelson. To say this past week has been tough would be an understatement of gigantic proportions. I understand that only people who are as close to their pets as we were to Nelson can fully comprehend our loss and I truly do not care if a non pet owner does not get it. Nelson was a family member in every sense of the word and it has been very strange in the house without him this past week. It feels like I am in someone else’s home. It is all the little things and gestures that were done automatically and without thought, filling his water bowl, pulling his bed out at night, getting a cookie out of the cabinet, brushing his teeth (twice a day!!! Every day!!!), sharing bananas and peanut butter for lunch. And of course, there is the empty house when we get back home from running errands or dinner with friends. No one waiting at the door for us, so excited that we were home.

David and I have been keeping busy and the outpouring of love, warm thoughts, and memories have been overwhelming. Nellie touched so many lives and our friends, family, and the online community have been nothing but kind and understanding. My grief for him cuts deep and my heart aches tremendously. We are slowly healing and overall it is getting better but there are still tears and there will be for quite some time. He was such a big part of our lives and the void he left is HUGE!

David said it best:

“Today I lost a good friend and constant companion. I will miss Nelson sitting behind my chair while I worked, forever ready to share one of my cookies. He was a swimmer, a runner, a hiker, a beachcomber, a mountain goat, a guard dog, a cheese lover, a protector and most of all he was always there whenever we needed him.
He has truly been one of the best friends I have ever had, from the day I picked him up in Santa Rosa as a 16 pound bundle of fun, to today December 8th, 2011 when we had to say goodbye.
He has been an amazing dog and he has had a great life. Nelson has been such a presence in our lives and so many others. He gave us so much that it is hard to imagine him not being there. … But he will always live on in our memories. A gentle giant with a heart of gold, who loved everybody!

Farewell for now good friend, I’m so very glad I got to know you!”

It gives me great comfort to know that he never had to suffer. He never really stopped doing all the things he loved most, he even chased a tennis ball – slowly and wonky – with his good buddy Jack the week before he passed away and had his breakfast just before we took him on his very last car ride, not to mention snacking in the kitchen with David – those who knew him best know that Nelson never missed a meal, unless he was forced to. I would have never wanted anything less for him.

Such a beautiful soul both inside and out who wanted nothing but be our friend. He left giant paw prints in our hearts and we will miss him forever!

Today’s Running Tip: A good run can help you through the tough time!

Running has always been my outlet for putting things in perspective and coping with grief. A good run allows your mind soar and your thoughts to flow freely. It refreshes the soul and makes you feel better all over.

Take It and Run Thursday – Training Plans Do’s and Don’ts

This is my virgin post for Taking It and Run Thursday over at the Runner’s Lounge. Throughout my racing “career” I have definitely learned a thing or to about what to do during training and what to avoid at all cost.

The biggest Do is to have fun. No matter what race distance you choose to train for, never forget how much fun it is to be outside with like minded people and being able to run. If fun is your priority the rest will follow. Once you decide to train for a race tell you friends, family, and especially your running buddies about it. It is always easier to stay committed when people close to you remind you what you signed up for and in order to not look like a loser quitter you will probably stick with the program.

Dedicate a set time for most of your training runs. Some people like to run in the morning before the day gets away from them, some prefer a lunch time exercise break to free their minds and be ready for the afternoon and others prefer the after work workout. Even if it seems tough at first to fit a training run into your already packed day, once you start running at the same time you will realize how it becomes just part of your routine. If you run in the morning lay out all of your clothes the night before so all you have to do is jump into them first thing after getting up, lace up your shoes and off you go. If you have a shower at work you could even run to work and run back home at night. 

Running with friends that are training for the same race is always easiest. It is much harder to ignore the early morning  alarm or just get lost in the couch cushion when your friends are waiting for you at the door step or a designated meeting point. If you do not show up YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT IT!

Do try to run the distance you are supposed to according to your training plan for that day. If you do not have time to cover the entire distance in one run split the run in half and do one workout in the morning and one at night. As long as you run the entire distance in the same day you will get the benefits. If for some reason you really have no time at all to run the distance, run a shorter one and leave the longer run for another day within the same week.

TAPER! Cutting back on mileage and speed is essential when preparing for a race, especially a long distance race like a half or full marathon. Be sure you get plenty of rest before the big day. Eat nutritious foods and hydrate!

There are many Don’ts I have tried and believe me, all of them were ugly. The biggest one hit me at mile 9 in San Diego in 2005. I have always had a hard time eating breakfast at the best of times and that morning my nerves got a better of me for extra measure. I ate one piece candy! When my coach saw me at mile 9 and asked how I was feeling all I could say was “Fine!” but what I really wanted to do was lay down and die. The prospect of having 17.2 miles to go to the finish did nothing to help my death wish. Hitting the wall at mile 9 in a marathon is not what anybody sets out to do – especially not if your goal for the race is to qualify for Boston. After downing a GU and some Gatorade I came back to my senses and managed to finish strong (many GUs and cups of Gatorade later) and ended up Boston bound, but I have never ever run on a piece of candy alone again. Neither should you. Even a non breakfast person like yours truly can teach her/himself to have a snack before a long run. These days I usually munch on dry whole grain cereal and always have a big spoon of peanut butter.

Don’t overdress! I often see runners at the start line of races who are dressed as if they were hitting the slopes of Colorado in the dead of winter. And they are not even layered so unless they want to provide their fellow runners with some entertainment they are stuck in their snow suits. Since most races start at the crack (no pun intended) of dawn anyone can understand the need for wrapping up in warm clothing. However once you start running the warming and sweating factor will set in fast and furious especially if you are running in thick clothes that you cannot take off. Dressing in layers is the best option for staying warm while waiting for the start and just taking all the unnecessary layers off once the race begins. If you have the option of leaving your clothes with someone who is not running, in your car or in one of the buses many marathons provide these days you can wear anything you want but if you are alone at the start and have no way of depositing your clothes just wear a sweatshirt and pants that you don’t mind tossing. Many race organizers collect discarded clothing that is still wearable and donate it to homeless shelters.

Another big no no I have personally witnessed but thankfully not experienced myself is to over train. Some runners tend to get extremely agitated and nervous before a race and convince themselves that they have no trained enough and are ill prepared. Instead of tapering and recovering properly for race day they continue to run long and hard. I have even seen someone put in another 22 mile run the weekend before the marathon. She came across the finish line three hours beyond her target time. When you are that close to the race you simply cannot improve your performance but you can definitely injure yourself and therefore not perform at all, or if you are lucky, just about make it and the skin of your knees. Instead of endless training start tapering three weeks prior to race day, take shorter, easy runs, and rest up. 

These are just a few Do’s and Don’ts but to me they play a major role in your race experience and since having fun is the number one priority I would suggest you stay away from the Don’ts.

 

Today’s Running Tip: Listen to advice from seasoned runners!

Advice from seasoned runners who have a few races under their belts can be a great resource during your training, especially if you are a beginner runner.